Romance...?(2)

  Ok some of you may say the last post was mainly for the women, yes, that was on purpose. This is because I know men are just babies and their's would really be an exhaustive list. If you adore him, you wont be able to run out of ways to show him... Let's make a list.

1. Respect him...show him you regard him as the MAN of the relationship. Teach him lovingly how you want him to express his love for you.
2. Make an effort to undrestand his feelings; the things he likes and do them and the things he does not like and refrain from doing them. This will show him that he matters to you, that he is important to you.
3. Show interest in the things that interest him...if he has a hobby, make an effort to know as much as you can about it and allow him to practice it.
4. Show interest in his friends and allow him to spend some time with them.
5. Don't focus on the negatives, rather focus on the things he is doing right. We all have flaws don't always hammer on his rather compliment him as often as possible. When you confront him keep in mind that he has feelings too...
6. Make an effort to protect his dignity at all times be it among family members or friends; dont give people room to disrespect him.
7. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together. Enjoy each others company, try and spend time together apart from the children. Take him out on dates and put enough effort in planning it.
8. Tell him often that you love him, compliment his looks. Not only us, they want to hear it often too. Make an effort to be creative in ways you express your love. Even cooking for him is important and make them the way he likes.
9. When you are wrong, admit your mistakes and apologize...don't exploit your role as the woman. Forgive him when he wrongs you. When you are angry, express it respectfully, don't give him the silent treatment.
10. Allow him time to unwind when he comes home from work, give him time to be alone. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.
11. Text him or send him an email when he is at work, telling him how much you love him, be impulsive in your expression of love. Leave love notes in his pocket or wallet or around the house where he can find them.
12.  Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is and about specific things, encourge him to want to be a better person, husband and father. Be his number one fan and cheer leader.
13. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life. Help your husband to be the Spiritual head at home; get up with him, even when he gets up earlier than you want to and pray with him.
14.  Brag about him to other people both in front of him and even when he’s not there. Honor him in front of the children. Never criticize him in front of others.
15. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
16.  Initiate sex periodically, don't make it his role and respond more often. Discover his sexual needs and make an effort to satisfy them.
17. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function, you may text him to see you at the side and tell him something like "You were looking so handsome and I coulden't wait to give you a kiss".
18. Hold hands and snuggle close to him even in public places...they too like public show of affection.
19. Never ague with him about money...as difficult as it may be.
20. Make an effort to always look your best for him. Make it easy for him to be out with you and show you off more often.

  It is my desire that we all get the best of our relationships and this does not come without some effort.



-Chika.

Romance....?

  To me I feel being romantic is doing something unexpectedly that warms your partner's heart...
Unexpected because the action does not have to be demanded... What one person considers romantic may be considered by another as just a simple gesture.

  Maybe it is just helping with the dishes, commenting on a new hair-do, even expressing how you like what she is putting on, rubbing her feet after a long day at work or finishing the food she serves you and actually enjoying it... For the men, it may be just showing him that he is important in every aspect of your life and allowing him to be the MAN or maybe smacking his bum as he walks past you to show him that you still find him hot and attractive.

  The big question may be- How do I know what she/he finds romantic and do them?...
Consider paying attention to your partner, what she/he says or the reaction he/she gives you when you do or say some certain things.

  For example if she mentions that one day she would love to come home and throw her feet up and be pampered, surprise her with just that one day when she least expects it. That you are fulfilling her wish and that you listened when she talked (and actually remembered) what she said would really make her pleased. In as much as we love to keep the home an feel that we are taking care of our men, we would really love to take a break once in a while, try to relive her of some stress no matter how small, we love to be treated like babies (not just the name calling). If you show interest in her daily chores even if it is just appreciating how much she does, it goes a long way.

  You do something, maybe you had in mind that you were trying to be romantic (or not) and she receives it without much enthusiasm. You don't go repeating it often no matter how romantic you feel it it is. Listen to body language too as well as verbalized words. This can go for both men and women. If she shows you that she was happy with the action, then you may repeat it once in a while but don't over do it.

  Talk to her. Tell her often how much you love her and always find her attractive..... even if she may have added a lot of weight from child birth. Now, I am not telling you to lie to her. If you are unconfortable with the weight it is okay; believe me, she is more bothered about it that you are.
I read about a man that told the wife that they would start jogging together in the evenings....now that is a better way of saying it than coming outright to tell her you think she is fat. Get involved with the things you want her to achieve and believe in her, be it academically or in improving her looks. Let her know you are interested and help her be the best she can be. This helps to build her confidence....

  Kiss her goodbye and when you come back home. Whenever you meet try to show affection. We don't mind public show of affection...helps reassure us; we treasure it.

  Be versatile.




.......to be continued.

Verse of the day

II Corinthians 10:17-18 NKJV

But “he who glories, let him glory in the Lord .” For not he who commends himself is approved, but whom the Lord commends.

Raising children to pray

 Teaching your children to pray is an important part of introducing God to them and reinforcing a relationship with God.
 I am a mother to 3 wonderful kids. They are the age that they are becoming quite assertive and to tell you the truth, it is quite scary. I love my children so much that I would not want anyone to go astray just like I know that no parent would.
 Sometimes I wonder how some parents do it....raise their kids with the fear of God. Seeing a 4 year old once pray with a passion was a heart-warming experience for me. So I started reading articles by men of God on raising Godly children and I would love to share the little I have learned. I have not gotten there but I am trying.

• I believe the first thing to do is to be a practical example to your children. Let them always see you pray and see you enjoy doing so. I remember seeing my father countless times kneeling beside his bed and praying for long periods at a stretch. What used to marvel me is that he was kneeling at a time that as a young adult we could just lie on the bed and say our prayers. This made an impression in my heart.
• No matter how old your children are, always pray with them. I know that children are products of habit. If you start on time, they will grow up with it. It may be necessary to explain to them the importance of praying, that it is a way we talk to God. They can talk to him as a Father and as a Friend....there should really be no format to it so it will be easy for them to grasp especially if they are young. They can basically talk to God about their day.
• You can as well teach them some established prayers like ''Our Lord's prayer'' or ''The grace'. Also, you can have them repeat your prayers and with time, they can pray on their own.
• Let them know that in any situation, they can just pause to talk to God- He is that reachable. One of my kids came to our room in the middle of the night to lie with my husband and I. Obviously, something woke him up and he was scared... I took him back to his room and something told me to tell him to pray if he feels scared instead of coming to our room. I had to tell him to sing ''Yes, Jesus loves me'' and he will fall asleep in no time. In every situation, God is available and willing to listen.
• Give your children examples of miracles that have happened as a result of prayers...the more personal the examples, the better.
• As they get older, let them know that fundamental parts of prayer: Adoration, Thanksgiving, Forgiveness, Request and Thanksgiving (again).

There is no better time to start than now....no matter how young they are. A good foundation secures the future and we have a responsibility towards them. Remember ''Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it''(Prov. 22:6).

-Sincerely, Cika!

Verse of the day

Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor that which is evil, cleave to that which is good. In love of the brethren be tenderly affectioned one to another; in honor preferring one another. (Rom 12:9-10)

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