Romance....?

  To me I feel being romantic is doing something unexpectedly that warms your partner's heart...
Unexpected because the action does not have to be demanded... What one person considers romantic may be considered by another as just a simple gesture.

  Maybe it is just helping with the dishes, commenting on a new hair-do, even expressing how you like what she is putting on, rubbing her feet after a long day at work or finishing the food she serves you and actually enjoying it... For the men, it may be just showing him that he is important in every aspect of your life and allowing him to be the MAN or maybe smacking his bum as he walks past you to show him that you still find him hot and attractive.

  The big question may be- How do I know what she/he finds romantic and do them?...
Consider paying attention to your partner, what she/he says or the reaction he/she gives you when you do or say some certain things.

  For example if she mentions that one day she would love to come home and throw her feet up and be pampered, surprise her with just that one day when she least expects it. That you are fulfilling her wish and that you listened when she talked (and actually remembered) what she said would really make her pleased. In as much as we love to keep the home an feel that we are taking care of our men, we would really love to take a break once in a while, try to relive her of some stress no matter how small, we love to be treated like babies (not just the name calling). If you show interest in her daily chores even if it is just appreciating how much she does, it goes a long way.

  You do something, maybe you had in mind that you were trying to be romantic (or not) and she receives it without much enthusiasm. You don't go repeating it often no matter how romantic you feel it it is. Listen to body language too as well as verbalized words. This can go for both men and women. If she shows you that she was happy with the action, then you may repeat it once in a while but don't over do it.

  Talk to her. Tell her often how much you love her and always find her attractive..... even if she may have added a lot of weight from child birth. Now, I am not telling you to lie to her. If you are unconfortable with the weight it is okay; believe me, she is more bothered about it that you are.
I read about a man that told the wife that they would start jogging together in the evenings....now that is a better way of saying it than coming outright to tell her you think she is fat. Get involved with the things you want her to achieve and believe in her, be it academically or in improving her looks. Let her know you are interested and help her be the best she can be. This helps to build her confidence....

  Kiss her goodbye and when you come back home. Whenever you meet try to show affection. We don't mind public show of affection...helps reassure us; we treasure it.

  Be versatile.




.......to be continued.