Romance...?(2)

  Ok some of you may say the last post was mainly for the women, yes, that was on purpose. This is because I know men are just babies and their's would really be an exhaustive list. If you adore him, you wont be able to run out of ways to show him... Let's make a list.

1. Respect him...show him you regard him as the MAN of the relationship. Teach him lovingly how you want him to express his love for you.
2. Make an effort to undrestand his feelings; the things he likes and do them and the things he does not like and refrain from doing them. This will show him that he matters to you, that he is important to you.
3. Show interest in the things that interest him...if he has a hobby, make an effort to know as much as you can about it and allow him to practice it.
4. Show interest in his friends and allow him to spend some time with them.
5. Don't focus on the negatives, rather focus on the things he is doing right. We all have flaws don't always hammer on his rather compliment him as often as possible. When you confront him keep in mind that he has feelings too...
6. Make an effort to protect his dignity at all times be it among family members or friends; dont give people room to disrespect him.
7. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together. Enjoy each others company, try and spend time together apart from the children. Take him out on dates and put enough effort in planning it.
8. Tell him often that you love him, compliment his looks. Not only us, they want to hear it often too. Make an effort to be creative in ways you express your love. Even cooking for him is important and make them the way he likes.
9. When you are wrong, admit your mistakes and apologize...don't exploit your role as the woman. Forgive him when he wrongs you. When you are angry, express it respectfully, don't give him the silent treatment.
10. Allow him time to unwind when he comes home from work, give him time to be alone. Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.
11. Text him or send him an email when he is at work, telling him how much you love him, be impulsive in your expression of love. Leave love notes in his pocket or wallet or around the house where he can find them.
12.  Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is and about specific things, encourge him to want to be a better person, husband and father. Be his number one fan and cheer leader.
13. Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life. Help your husband to be the Spiritual head at home; get up with him, even when he gets up earlier than you want to and pray with him.
14.  Brag about him to other people both in front of him and even when he’s not there. Honor him in front of the children. Never criticize him in front of others.
15. Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
16.  Initiate sex periodically, don't make it his role and respond more often. Discover his sexual needs and make an effort to satisfy them.
17. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function, you may text him to see you at the side and tell him something like "You were looking so handsome and I coulden't wait to give you a kiss".
18. Hold hands and snuggle close to him even in public places...they too like public show of affection.
19. Never ague with him about money...as difficult as it may be.
20. Make an effort to always look your best for him. Make it easy for him to be out with you and show you off more often.

  It is my desire that we all get the best of our relationships and this does not come without some effort.



-Chika.