Alone?

Joshua 1:5 There shall not any man be able to stand before thee all the days of your life: as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee nor forsake thee.

 My prayer for you today is that you may find fulfillment in His presence; that only God will satisfy you in Jesus' name.

 There are times in our lives that we have to be alone be it in a relationship, marriage or not. You may be afraid of being alone or you have been alone for too long that you idealize a man's attention as an epitome of success and fulfillment; you might have become distrustful in men because of your past experiences. Whatever the case may be, you have found yourself alone. This is not the time to fall into depression. I am not saying that the situation is easy. Like the saying goes, life is a dress rehearsal. Being alone may be necessary to prepare yourself for what is to come.

 You have to understand the secretes of being alone...find out, learn and master what God wants you to learn at this stage of your life. Develop yourself, your strengths and try to cut out the excesses from your life, learn to be patient and tolerant. Some women have been alone long enough that they have become so dependent on themselves. As much as this is good, you are still the woman and when you enter a relationship, you have to allow your partner to be the man. Spend this time to try to relearn to be a woman. Overall, try to make yourself better.

 It is when you do this that you will be ready to share your companionship with another. If you are not satisfied on your own, no relationship will satisfy you. Relationships are not the answer to every loneliness. A woman has to be happy by herself before the man comes. If she does not, she will soon be unhappy with him around. She will go from madly in love to being distant dissatisfied because she is expecting him to satisfy all that she hasn't gotten out of life, to fill a gap that only the Holy Spirit can. Men are human and have needs too, they come with their own imperfections and expectations.

 In marriage, you will at times find yourself alone, physically or emotionally. You have to have the strength to carry your partner along and bring him back to you without being controlling or selfish about it. Sometimes you have to show selflessness allow him to become his own man, pursue his dreams while you pursue yours while at the time helping each other. These characters are not learnt on the job.

 You have waited for this long, it is for a reason. Find out what it is and deal with it so you don't carry it into your future relationships. Marriage is between two mature people; mature not of age but in strength of character. Each one being strong together and individually to hold the other up. Spend this time to mature. It is only Jesus that will be able to soothe the itch of affection that you desire....while you wait. Spend this time with him "He will never leave you nor forsake you".


-Sincerely, Cika.